“You can’t love someone without loving yourself,” such a cliche, but definitely true. A healthy relationship begins with two people who love themselves enough to love the other person. When you hate yourself, you are filled with negativity, insecurities and envy – three things that can push a person away and ruin a relationship.
If you’ve been through a series of heartbreaks in the past, it’s probably time to sit and think about how you see yourself and how it has affected your relationships. Also, I believe that we attract the type of energy that we also give off. So if you want someone to love you, you need to love yourself first. You will attract a healthy and loving partner when you become that healthy, loving person first.
Not sure where to begin? Here are 6 ways to love yourself and attract the love of your life.
1. Accept your failures.
Forgive yourself for all your shortcomings, let go of the insecurities and focus on your positive qualities. How will you truly open your heart for other people when you yourself hate the person that you are? Those failures? They’re part of life, they don’t define you. You need to learn to forgive yourself, accept your mistakes and learn from them. Remember, love attracts love and hate attracts hate.
2. Appreciate yourself, quirks and all.
Insecurities are one of the reasons why most relationships fail. When you’re insecure, you’re always doubting your partner’s love for you, always being paranoid and comparing yourself with other people. But when you’ve accepted your own flaws, you gain confidence and you know how confidence is attractive, right? Confidence is when you are comfortable with yourself, embracing your flaws and loving yourself beyond your imperfections.
3. Embrace solitude.
You need to learn how to be happy on your own and not seek happiness from other people. Sometimes, you tend to settle for an unhealthy relationship out of loneliness. That’s not the case when you embrace solitude and know how to find happiness on your own. Your happiness attracts others and opens the door to a happy and loving relationship.
4. Be grateful.
Part of loving oneself is being grateful with what you have. Focus on your blessings instead of complaining about your problems in your life. Practicing gratefulness attracts more positivity in your life.
5. Repeat positive affirmations every day.
Tell yourself that you are worthy of love, that you are ready for love, that you deserve happiness and that you are attracting a loving, supportive soulmate. Sometimes, you won’t believe anything you’re saying but continue doing that everyday till you actually believe it.
6. Treat yourself.
Last but not the least, treat yo’ self! Travel alone, take yourself on weekly dates, splurge on things that make you happy. Take time to relax, to know yourself more, pursue passions and do things that will make you happy.