There are two types of people in this world – the ones who inspire you, and those who drain you. The latter being the people who suck all the positive energy out of you, leaving you drained, unhappy and fueling you with negativity – well, these people, my friend, are the ones you need to eliminate from your life ASAP.
On my previous article, “The 7 Things You Need to Remove from Your Life If You Want to Be Happy,” I mentioned about cutting off toxic people from your life and surrounding yourself with positive people that will do you good.
Yes, you are allowed to cut toxic people from your life, whether it’s a friend, a family member, colleague or a partner.
Okay, so who are these “toxic” people, you may ask? Let’s get to know them one by one.
1. The Pessimist
These are the people who focus on the negativities of life – the ones who always see the bad side of every situation, and are always doubtful of every person they meet. They will always discredit your ideas, opinions and plans instead of being supportive and encouraging, pointing out every possible way that you could fail. So if you have a Negative Nancy in your life, it’s best to say goodbye because a negative mindset can be contagious – and you don’t need that in your life.
2. The Judgmental
There’s nothing wrong with giving fair feedback and constructive criticisms, but these kind of people have a way of making you feel terrible about your decisions, opinions, plans and passions. They can’t accept that you are different from them. Instead of appreciating or learning from you, they tend to look down on you and criticize you when your ideas don’t match theirs.
3. The Victim
Whatever the situation is, it is never their fault. They are the ones who either blame you or pull you in to their dilemma. They are also the kinds of people who dwell on their problems way too much, feel sorry for themselves all the time and always feel as if they are being attacked.
4. The Gossiper
Oh, these are the toxic people who enjoy talking about other people’s lives. I mean, why would you want to waste time stalking people on Facebook, gossiping about their lives and deriving pleasure from other people’s misfortunes? Actually, gossipers are filled with insecurities and it can be destructive, so better stay away because if they talk “with” you behind other people’s backs, they can also talk “about” you behind your back.
5. The Manipulator
Last but not the least are the manipulative people in your life – the ones who take advantage of your weakness against you. They will use what they know about you to manipulate you. They can exploit your generosity, and it’s always take, take instead of give and take. This type of person is tricky to deal with because they will always act nice in front of you but in reality, they have a hidden agenda to destroy you.
Remember, you have to power to turn your life around. And if it requires you to remove toxic people from your life, do it.
“People inspire you, or they drain you—pick them wisely.” – Hans F. Hansen