According to recent statistics, 40% of the married couples with children in the US are forming blended families right now and that 1 out of every 3 Americans is either a step parent, a step child or in some way, included in a blended family.
If you are a parent or step parent in a blended family, I can imagine how confusing and stressful it is sometimes. But don’t worry because there are a number of ways to make it work.
1. Know this by heart – those children are a part of your partner.
Your partner comes with a past, and children always come first. Never compare, compete or feel sidelined. Instead, appreciate your partner’s treasures and find ways to connect with them.
2. Focus on connection and not correction.
Speaking of connection, remember that as a step mom/dad, your role is to establish a positive relationship with you stepchildren. It’s better to let the primary parent enforce discipline for his/her own kids.
3. Find activities to unite the whole family.
Look for activities that will not alienate any member of the family. These should be activities that both step parents and step children can do together. It may be hard to find something to do that everyone will love but I’m sure you’ll find a way. You can compromise, take turns or do something new for everybody.
4. Form a special bond.
5. Support the children in their transition.
Transition days can be very physically and emotionally stressful for the children. So make sure to offer support during this tough time.
6. Find support.
To sum it all up, blending a family successfully is not easy and won’t happen overnight. It takes time and it’s one heck of a rocky road, so just be patient because things will work out eventually, and it’s going to be worth it.
